Happy Anniversary!
Posted Jan 24, 2021 8:14PM UTC
Today makes 24 years of OlderGay.Men (in its various forms). Thanks to all of you for being a part of it, and here's to a long future of friendship together.
Ask The Lawyer
Posted Jan 11, 2021 7:45PM UTC
One of our members is a lawyer who has kindly offered to start a column in which he'll answer questions about legal issues related to older gay men and their partners. The usual disclaimers apply — this isn't a substitute for legal advice specific to your situation — but we hope it will be of interest and use. If you have a question to ask, go here:
Click through to his bio and disclaimer (https://oldergay.men/law/disclaimer/), and you can submit your question at the bottom of the page.
🦸♂️ Places And Problems
Posted Jan 11, 2021 6:48PM UTC
We've started the year with a couple of new features. First, when you look at a collection of members (like https://oldergay.men/users/), you'll now see a national flag for anyone who has share...
🦸♂️ Rounding Out A Once-In-A-Lifetime Year
Posted Dec 28, 2020 9:54PM UTC
It has to be, right? We can't do this again.Looking back on OlderGay in particular, I'm proud of what came together this year. We moved here from sfpix.net last February, and while there are many ro...
You’re Not Seeing Things
Posted Dec 28, 2020 3:15PM UTC
Don't be confused if the Birthdays section of this week's newsletter looks unusual. It looked unusual to me, and a little exploring showed that we have over 12,000 members who use January 1st as their birthdates.
My guess? It's a combination of guys acting in the interests of a) privacy, b) online security, or c) not bothering to click the drop-down menus for Month and Day. If you know a doctoral student in Statistics, he or she might enjoy working up an estimate of how many of these dates could possibly be legitimate.
For our purposes, it comes to just over 50 men appearing in the newsletter. I guess we can put up with that for one week. I don't want to skip the real New Yearsers, and the others should get their acknowledgement sometime.
I will someday get around to talking to all the guys who are over 120 years old...
Happy Holidays,
Jeff
Self-Care Guide
Posted Dec 17, 2020 12:40PM UTC
We received an email update from SAGE that might be helpful to our U.S. members. You can read it online here:
If you have trouble clicking through to their PDF guide, here's the direct link:
The holiday season can be especially hard on our group. Festive lights and cheery advertisements can grate on those of us going through family estrangements and other isolations. This time, after nearly a year locked away with unrelenting fear, I'm sure some of us are going through the worst of the worst. I hope we're providing an outlet here on OlderGay, but if you need more contact and an ear to listen, please check out SAGE's offerings. You're not alone.
And for our younger members looking for a way to make a difference: I hope you'll check it...
Where The Boys Are
Posted Dec 14, 2020 11:57PM UTC
Our team hit a milestone last week: All of our listings of places now include photos. They’re both attractive and informative, a quick measure of whether a given spot could be for you or is probably not your scene.
Ramesh has opened a thread on our discussion board for suggestions of places we’re missing:
https://talk.oldergay.men/t/local-expertise-needed/52289
If you have a favorite older-men-frequented place near you or one you remember fondly from your travels, let us know, so we can share the word!
A hospital near my partner and me received its first batch of COVID-19 vaccines today. Hang in there just a bit longer, everyone, and we’ll be taking advantage of these gathering places once again. Here’s to a normal summer.
Stay safe until then,
Jeff
Annual Memberships and Shining, Happy Places
Posted Dec 04, 2020 8:42PM UTC
Holy Cow, it's been forty days since I checked in with you! As a step toward amends, I'd like to share the following message I posted to our Patreon subscribers.
But first, to clarify what's been going on and why I've been out of sight: My partner Al started having medical issues in August. Tests showed he'd had three strokes and needed surgery to prevent more, possibly fatal ones. He quit smoking, was cleared for surgery, and finally went under the knife on November 11th. He came home for a weekend... and went back to the hospital for a week because he'd had another stroke in the process. 🙃
He's been home ever since, but he's needed a lot of immediate hands-on care, as any lover of older men will eventually attest. I'm the only programmer on the site, so I hope you'll understand why there have been no great leaps forward of late.
Still, our membership has grown and the site has improved and the...
🦸♂️ Annual Memberships
Posted Dec 04, 2020 7:32PM UTC
Someone just asked whether he could pay in advance for a year's membership in OlderGay.Men. I checked with Patreon and... it was quite easy to set up!So, that's an option now, and you'll receive a 1...
🦸♂️ What We Do Between ER Visits
Posted Nov 20, 2020 7:36PM UTC
Six weeks since I checked in with you! I hope you’ve all been keeping well. I’ve been away for unavoidable reasons that I'll share below.But first, what’s been happening on the site:The big improvem...