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We've had three weeks of discovering more each day just how dangerous Al's condition was and is. I posted some of the story here:https://oldergay.men/news/forced-breakScroll down to the comments for...

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My other half’s been in the hospital with pneumonia for two weeks. That’s not quite accurate, since, thankfully, they eased COVID restrictions and I’ve spent part of each day with him. So, at a rough estimate, 41% of me has been gone. I’ve taken an iPad with me a couple of times, thinking I might do something while he's sleeping, but holding his hand and rubbing his thumb has been a full and satisfying vocation, and I haven't gotten around to more.

Each day of the last week has been a broken promise. First, we heard he'd go to rehab. I was all for this, seeing how weak he'd become, but then we heard that the rehab center only does acute care, and he's only cleared for sub-acute care. So they planned to send him to another center which, based on online reviews and conversations with many friends, has a reputation as a death trap that leaves people far worse than when they come in. And it was the only option his insurance would pay for. So he...

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We returned home safely from the Prime Timers convention, and started the week well. Al was livelier than he’s been in ages, and I was glad I’d taken him. I was settling back into routine when he st...

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Well, to be honest, from halfway home. 🙂 I might have pushed through, but Al was tired with a sore butt — not from Prime Timers Convention-related activities — so we've stopped for the night. Five a...

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Just a quick pop-in to note, if you didn't already note it, that I checked off the next Patreon poll task this week. True to form, I unearthed unforeseen difficulties (how to convince an inhuman fra...

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Following on the heels of marking people in pictures, I've created galleries from the results:

https://oldergay.men/images/members

Have a look — happy window shopping! 😀

Jeff

I've made it possible now to say that you're in a picture on the site. On a picture's page, just click "Add yourself to the list" under "People in this picture". See here for example:

https://oldergay.men/images/fb51ce6ce0593dae4bc26646c91a6f62

Do Not Abuse This. Marking yourself as the subject of a picture of Ed Asner or a drawing of Santa Claus will get you a warning, and continuing will get your account banned. Let's keep this useful.

On profile pages, we make a distinction now between photos someone's uploaded and photos that feature the person. Like here:

https://oldergay.men/users/jeff-covey

We show ten pictures on the profile, and you can click through to see more:

https://oldergay.men/images?subject=141

When you upload a batch of photos now, you can tick a checkbox to have them all marked as pictures of you. If you've already uploaded a bunch, go to your profile page. Above the thumbnails of pictures uploaded by you, you'll find a new link labeled...

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In the best shoot-then-aim tradition, I've only started to collect statistics about what's happening on OlderGay.Men. One jumped out at me: 107 members currently support us on Patreon. On the one hand: That's great! On the other: It's 0.1468% of our membership.

I don't want to sound discouraged. But if only 15 percent of one percent of you care to make sure this will still be here tomorrow, you have to admit that's not the most enthusiastic vote of confidence. On a crass financial level, it means that supporting members pay less than a third of our monthly expenses. I'm happy to continue making up the rest, but increased support would ease both my pocketbook and my worries about whether this is a worthwhile experiment.

So let me ask you:

1. If you subscribe: Thank you!
2. If you don’t… Why not?

I don't mean that as an accusation, but as a sincere question.

I understand that $5 a month is more than some of our members can afford. I...

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Breaking in to our usual coverage for this sad news:

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/08/29/arts/television/ed-asner-dead.html

I finally got around to making it possible to upload multiple images at once. If you have a bunch you want to add to the site, you can drop them all at once now:

https://oldergay.men/image_contributions/new

The site puts them into a holding area, then, when it gets a moment, takes each and runs it through all the processing that we were doing at the time of uploading before: Checking that the image isn't already on the site, double-checking that you didn't accidentally upload the PDF of your tax return, etc. Since all of this happens later, uploading should be much faster as well as more convenient. Give it a try and let us know if you run into any problems!

Enjoy,
Jeff