Overnight Outage
Posted May 20, 2026 11:18AM UTC
Our hosting provider had an incident yesterday, and OlderGay.Men was unavailable overnight. We saw it and redeployed this morning, and everything is working again. No data was lost, the site was just unreachable. If you're interested, the details are here:
https://blog.railway.com/p/incident-report-may-19-2026-gcp-account-outage
Who's Been Looking At You, Kid?
Posted May 02, 2026 1:37AM UTC
Don't make me regret this. 🙂
When I've asked what's missing from OlderGay.Men, one of the most insistent replies has been: Let me see who looked at my profile. The most recent back-and-forth on this is on our feedback forum, here. To recap my position there, I've been leery of adding this because of my own experiences. I've happened upon guys on SilverDaddies, even by an accidental slip of the finger, and had them send me messages just because I visited their page — and more messages, and more, in words increasingly alarming, because I wasn't replying to them.
For an older crowd that's not sure what's an email and what's a text message and what's YouTube and what's channel 375, this is a real concern. "I saw you looking at me, WTF aren't you calling the number I gave you?" isn't just tiresome. It's frightening. It's someone who saw you and is maybe watching you right now, and maybe knows...
Image Tagging Is Back
Posted Apr 22, 2026 3:10PM UTC
Image tagging is working again — and we've built it out a bit along the way. Here's what you can do now, and why we hope you'll pitch in.
What's new
- Tag as you upload. There's a tag field on the image contribution form.
- Tag (or re-tag) any image from its page. You can see how others have tagged an image and add your own tags to help you find it later.
- Your tags are yours. The editor pre-fills with the tags you've added to that image, not everyone else's. Think of it as your own personal index layered over the gallery.
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Browse by tag. The top 20 popular tags appear as chips on https://oldergay.men/images/.
Need more? The full list lives at https://oldergay.men/images/tags, and there's a Tags tab in the browse navigation now. - Favorites view is tag-aware. When you're looking at your favorites, the tag chips are scoped to your tags on your favorites — so it becomes a personal, searchable collection. When you look at someone else's...
Member Badges
Posted Apr 20, 2026 10:59PM UTC
A quick read on who you’re meeting
You may have noticed a new little badge next to members’ names on their profiles, in the People index, and in your messages. It’s our way of giving you a quick read on who you’re looking at without having to dig around for clues.
What the badges mean
Most members are rolled up into one of three tiers:
- Unverified — we can’t reliably reach this account (usually a bouncing or unconfirmed email). Treat a new message from an Unverified badge the way you’d treat any brand-new correspondent.
- Member — a standard member in good standing. Their email works and they’re part of the community, but our other activity signals haven’t lit up recently.
- Active member — recently logging in, posting on the forum, filling out their profile, or sharing photos and stories. The badge you’ll see most on people who are showing up.
Supporters and staff — Fan, Patron, Hero, Moderator, and Administrator — carry their own badges...
Message Preferences and Favorites
Posted Mar 12, 2026 4:28PM UTC
Two small updates:
On https://oldergay.men/settings, you'll find two new options, to decline messages from members who don't have a location or don't have a profile text. (If they try to write you, they'll get an explanation and a link to fill them in before they try again.)
On https://oldergay.men/images and https://oldergay.men/users, if you have favorite images or people you follow, you'll find a "Favorites" button to get to them quickly.
Hope this helps with corralling your inbox and enjoying what you love to see each day. 🙂
Patreon Poll Results
Posted Feb 02, 2026 8:57PM UTC
Thanks to everyone who voted in the poll! Here's what you decided:
| Votes | Project |
|---|---|
| 13 | Add video chatting to the chat room |
| 12 | Let members upload videos to their profiles |
| 11 | Let members share their current locations with the site (GPS) to see what's nearby |
| 10 | Synchronize profiles on OlderGay.Men and talk.oldergay.men — photos, locations, bios, etc. |
| 7 | Let Groups share local events with members in their area (weekly lunches, etc.) |
| 7 | Add a Cities section with information about what to expect there, places to go, etc. |
| 6 | Let members post personal updates, notifying members who follow them |
| 6 | Add "Add to my calendar" links to Events, Meetups, etc. |
| 6 | Make maps with dots for nearby Groups, Places, etc. |
| 5 | Group geo-located items by country and province (list everything in New York, etc.) |
| 4 | Add ratings for stories (with favorites linked from profile... |
🦸♂️ Poll Take Two
Posted Jan 26, 2026 5:25PM UTC
I didn't realize I needed to flip a hidden toggle to allow everyone to vote on more than one option in our poll. And I didn't know I couldn't edit it once it was posted.So here it is again; we're ex...
30 Years
Posted Jan 24, 2026 3:45PM UTC
Happy Anniversary! OlderGay.Men (and its earlier incarnations) turns 30 today. It's given me a sense of purpose over the years, and I hope to keep it going until it's an old man itself. 😀 I hope you're still enjoying it, too. I'll close the current poll Monday, so head there this weekend if you want to help us plan how to start our next decade together.
🦸♂️ Tell Us What to Do
Posted Jan 19, 2026 10:18PM UTC
Please tell us what you want next on OlderGay.Men. Below are the most-requested fixes and features. Cast your vote this week, and we'll get to work. Looking forward to another great year together!
🦸♂️ What to Fix in '26
Posted Jan 12, 2026 6:00PM UTC
The photo above is a quick follow-up to my last post. Much tidier.So that's fixed — now what should we do? I want to start the year with a poll to set our direction for the coming year. I'll post be...