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Posted Jul 15, 2021 8:58PM UTC

We're excited to announce another get-back-out-there feature. If you've been looking for a way to meet other OlderGay members near you, you can now schedule a meetup to get everyone together.

Pick a place and a time, and we'll notify everyone nearby in the newsletter. If you don't have a location in mind, you can head to our Places section. When you see a place that seems amenable, you'll find a "Schedule a meetup here!" link on its page that will pre-fill the name and address of the venue. When you click through, you'll also find a somewhat tedious list of suggestions to help make your event the best it can be.

We hope this will break the ice for members close to each other who haven't yet met. We hope it will be good for travelers, too! Imagine if, on your first visit to London or Palm Springs or Rio de Janeiro, you could have dinner or drinks with like-minded friends who help you settle in. Years of running...


Second Homes And Travel Plans

Posted Jun 21, 2021 10:24PM UTC

We have two huge announcements to make, just in time for the world’s re-opening.

First, you can now list a second location on your profile if you spend part of the year somewhere else (summers in New York and winters in Fort Lauderdale, for example). Both homes will appear on your profile, and you’ll appear in searches on either location (and as being near places, groups, events, etc. in either place).

Second, if you’re just making a trip somewhere, you can post it here:

When you do, you’ll create a page with the information we have about the area you’re visiting, and you can post your comments if you need some advice. The newsletter will notify people in the area that you’re coming, and you’ll start appearing in location searches just before your arrival date. As you can see, we automatically create trips when members say they’re attending events. Trips are only visible to members who are logged in.

I hope you find these features helpful,...


Reporting Spam

Posted May 09, 2021 5:25PM UTC

As one of the steps we’re taking against spam on the site, you’ll now find a form at the bottom of each message you receive which lets you forward the conversation to our staff for review. We continue to work on preventing spam from reaching you, but if something does get through, we appreciate your help in flagging messages so we can remove spammer accounts as quickly as possible.

Have a great week!


Posted May 08, 2021 12:11AM UTC

Since the start of the year, we’ve welcomed nearly 900 new friends to the site. Along with this growth spurt, we’ve welcomed our first serious round of spam. It ramped up in the last couple of weeks, first with messages targeted at our demographic, then with generic spammers who didn’t read the room and posted pictures of themselves as large-breasted women in American flag tank tops shooting rifles.

We’ve banned the spammer accounts as we’ve found them, and I believe I just found and fixed the bug that was letting them post so many messages at once. This fix shouldn’t affect any legitimate messages you try to send, but let us know if you run into a problem. In the coming days, I’ll be making several other changes that should greatly reduce the chances that spam will reach you here.

In the meantime, this is a good reminder to follow basic online safety practices. Don’t share your personal information...


COVID Vaccine Resource

Posted Mar 16, 2021 2:17PM UTC

The Fort Lauderdale Prime Gentlemen alerted us to a company that matches people who want a COVID-19 vaccine with providers who have unclaimed doses in danger of going to waste. If you’re having trouble getting vaccinated, it only takes a moment to sign up for their text alerts. We hope everyone who wants a shot gets it soon, and we’re back out in the world together this summer.

Coverage in the New York Times:

Direct link:


Happy Anniversary!

Posted Jan 24, 2021 8:14PM UTC

Today makes 24 years of OlderGay.Men (in its various forms). Thanks to all of you for being a part of it, and here's to a long future of friendship together.


Ask The Lawyer

Posted Jan 11, 2021 7:45PM UTC

One of our members is a lawyer who has kindly offered to start a column in which he'll answer questions about legal issues related to older gay men and their partners. The usual disclaimers apply — this isn't a substitute for legal advice specific to your situation — but we hope it will be of interest and use. If you have a question to ask, go here:

Click through to his bio and disclaimer (, and you can submit your question at the bottom of the page.

You’re Not Seeing Things

Posted Dec 28, 2020 3:15PM UTC

Don't be confused if the Birthdays section of this week's newsletter looks unusual. It looked unusual to me, and a little exploring showed that we have over 12,000 members who use January 1st as their birthdates.

My guess? It's a combination of guys acting in the interests of a) privacy, b) online security, or c) not bothering to click the drop-down menus for Month and Day. If you know a doctoral student in Statistics, he or she might enjoy working up an estimate of how many of these dates could possibly be legitimate.

For our purposes, it comes to just over 50 men appearing in the newsletter. I guess we can put up with that for one week. I don't want to skip the real New Yearsers, and the others should get their acknowledgement sometime.

I will someday get around to talking to all the guys who are over 120 years old...

Happy Holidays,

Self-Care Guide

Posted Dec 17, 2020 12:40PM UTC

We received an email update from SAGE that might be helpful to our U.S. members. You can read it online here:

SAGE Suggestions

If you have trouble clicking through to their PDF guide, here's the direct link:

Holiday Self-Care Guide

The holiday season can be especially hard on our group. Festive lights and cheery advertisements can grate on those of us going through family estrangements and other isolations. This time, after nearly a year locked away with unrelenting fear, I'm sure some of us are going through the worst of the worst. I hope we're providing an outlet here on OlderGay, but if you need more contact and an ear to listen, please check out SAGE's offerings. You're not alone.

And for our younger members looking for a way to make a difference: I hope you'll check it...


Where The Boys Are

Posted Dec 14, 2020 11:57PM UTC

Our team hit a milestone last week: All of our listings of places now include photos. They’re both attractive and informative, a quick measure of whether a given spot could be for you or is probably not your scene.

Ramesh has opened a thread on our discussion board for suggestions of places we’re missing:

If you have a favorite older-men-frequented place near you or one you remember fondly from your travels, let us know, so we can share the word!

A hospital near my partner and me received its first batch of COVID-19 vaccines today. Hang in there just a bit longer, everyone, and we’ll be taking advantage of these gathering places once again. Here’s to a normal summer.

Stay safe until then,