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We've created a poster that we'll be sending to LGBT centers and other places that older gay men frequent. If you can think of somewhere near you where it would be welcome, you can download and print a copy from:

https://oldergay.men/share

Like we say there, we appreciate the help in getting the word out, but hope you'll find it also promotes your own self-interest. Mister Right may be walking past that bulletin board every week, just at a different time than you! Or at least some nearby guys who want to grab a coffee. 😀 Hope you're making great friends through this holiday season.

So the above is my bathroom. And my living room is more “open plan” than usual:A few weeks ago, the 70-year-old cast iron drain pipe under my house collapsed. Can’t complain that it was ready to ret...

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A quick update since the shaky start of the month: We seem to have weathered the latest attacks on the site, and it's been responsive and reliable again. As always, let us know when your mileage var...

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I'm at the airport, heading home from the Prime Timers convention. It was great to see many of you there. As much as I enjoy interacting with everyone online, it's renewing to get to talk in person before heading home to days programming alone. I hope everyone had a great time and a safe trip home, and that we'll see many more of you in Palm Springs in 2027.

Jeff

If you're a regular user of the site, you'll have seen that we were under attack again during the last couple of weeks. I've kept the site up as much as I could, but didn't want to make an announcement about it because every time I thought I could say we were back, another gear went flying off the machine. Today's the first day that everything’s gone smoothly. Thanks as always for your patience.

Glad to get this sorted before I head to Omaha Thursday. Hope I'll see some of you there!

Jeff

If you've been to https://oldergay.men/ much in the last couple of weeks, you've no doubt noticed that we've been under attack again. I've kept the site up as much as I could (too often by simply re...

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I told you a couple of weeks ago about my hip problems. This past week, I hit another aging milestone.

I couldn't keep it up.

The site started crashing, initially from a denial of service attack. It took advantage of the fact that our users database has grown quite large and we were letting visitors go straight to one of many thousand of pages at https://oldergay.men/users. The pages were always changing because we sort, by default, on who has logged in most recently, and the database was getting overwhelmed with a flood of requests to find what's on page 2,781 now, and what's on 3,182, and...

I kept the site up as much as I could (lots of restarts) while mitigating the problems. As ever, each fix spawned a whack-a-mole of new issues. When you were able to reach the site, you probably found odd bits broken, fixed, broken again. It's been stable since last night, and I'm...

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We've been under a denial of service attack for a couple of days. I've opted to keep the site up as much as we can while combating it, though you may have found it down more than up, and you might be asked whether you're human more often. I hope we'll be squared away soon and start the week on a stable footing.

Jeff

I hit another milestone on the path from old man fancier to old man. About a month ago, I was taking a walk, and a dull ache in my hip turned into a shooting pain running down to my foot. I was half...

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In the process of our redesign, I broke the "Reply" button on messages. Sorry, it should be working now! Go write that hot guy back. 😉

Jeff