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I introduced a bug last Friday which stopped some users from opening the profiles of other users. I believe I've fixed it for everyone now. Sorry for the inconvenience; let us know if you still get an error message when you try to visit someone's page.

Jeff

Ramesh compiled a list of the questions we get most often about the site, and their answers. If you've been wondering how to do something, head over to our help page and see if the answer's there. (And feel free to complete the form at the bottom of the page if it isn't.)

We just received word that the Oklahoma City Prime Timers Labor Day gathering has been canceled for this year. It's an event with many happy memories for me, and I'm sorry we won't be seeing each other there. The chapter plans to host it again in 2021. I hope everyone's keeping well and getting by with staying in touch online. Take good care of yourself, and we'll see you again on the other side.

Jeff

We just received word that The Residences will begin taking applications from June 15th to June 26th. Located in Wilton Manors (Fort Lauderdale, USA), it will be Florida's first affordable housing community with customized support services for LGBTQ+ seniors.

Wilton Manors is one of the most densely-gay-populated (and especially OlderGay-populated) towns in the world. This looks like a good opportunity for anyone hoping to retire to a gay-friendly community who’s unsure of his ability to manage such a move financially.

The management company will use a lottery to choose from the pool of applicants, not a "first-come-first-served" system. There’s no rush to be the first in line, but if you’re interested, you need to apply sometime next week. Applications and more information will be available on Monday the 15th at:

http://carrfour.org/

(Long time passing!)

If you get our newsletter, you'll see the Events section shrink dramatically this week. The Chicago Prime Timers gathering was canceled, and we finally received confirmation from cruise organizers that they're canceling all the older gay cruises until the fall. Cross your fingers with us for what's remaining, but I fear we'll be waiting to see each other again in the new year.

Those of us in the United States had even more than the pandemic on our minds last week. If you feel a need to talk to someone (respectfully), do take advantage of our discussion board. If you're having a truly hard time and think a professional trained in coping strategies could help, please reach out to one. You're worth it, and you could benefit from it, even if you've never felt the need before. Here are a couple of resources to try:

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So I shouldn't have been so sanguine about the restoration of our email service. I got on the phone with our provider this morning, and we believe it's really, honestly fixed this time.

Not being able to send mail leads to many failures you might not connect to it: When you send a message to another member, the site tries to email them to let them know about it. When you reset your password, it tries to email you for confirmation. Etc. If you've been getting odd errors the last couple of days, try again now and let us know if you're still running into dead ends.

Stay safe, have a great week!
Jeff

Our email delivery provider suffered a data breach and locked us out of our account until we changed our password. We should be OK now. I'm sorry for any mail that failed to send between the time they locked us out last night and when I got their message this morning.

Jeff

We've been plagued the last few days by spammers creating fake accounts with variations on the name "Shandi". On the bright side, they haven't bothered to see what our site is about – they're using their standard ploy of posing as young women, so they're unlikely to take anyone in here. 😄

Still, it never hurts to remind everyone to be careful about your personal information, including your email address. Don't share anything with anyone unless you're as sure as you can be about them.

Stay safe,
Jeff

Paul has started a thread where you can share how things are going with you during the COVID shutdown:

https://talk.oldergay.men/t/let-s-check-in-covid-19/11068

One silver lining in this ordeal is that we can be here to support and check in on one another. I hope you're all still staying safe and getting what you need. Let's keep each other company until we can crawl out of our caves again.

Jeff

You can now save other members' profiles as favorites. When visiting someone's page, just click "Add to favorites", and he’ll appear on your profile page (visible only to you). Thanks to our Patreon members for voting this the next feature to add!

Enjoy, stay safe,
Jeff